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If you have read The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die, you would know that the first chapter starts off with the reason why the book was written. It is all about happiness in life. Each morning you wake up, you have two choices. Be happy or wallow in self-pity that you didn’t do yesterday.

The story below is extracted from here. You may or may not get it. Just read it a few more times and maybe something will hit you as it contains the secrets in the book; The Five Secrets.

Dance Like No One’s Watching

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.

Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are.

After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.

The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now.

If not now … when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza …

“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin.
But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.

So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time … and remember that time waits for no one …

So stop waiting until you finish school … until you go back to school … until you lose ten pounds … until you gain ten pounds … until you have kids … until your kids leave the house … until you start work … until you retire … until you get married … until you get divorced … until Friday night … until Sunday morning … until you get a new car or home … until your car or home is paid off … until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter … until you are off welfare … until the first or fifteenth … until your song comes on … until you’ve had a drink … until you’ve sobered up … until you die … until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy …

Happiness is a journey … not a destination!!

In life, we often want to have choices yet, it seems that we are often stuck between a rock and a hard place. However, the choice lies within ourselves, we have choices to choose from. Perhaps the choice may not seem to be the path to happiness but who said it was paved with gold?

Have you made a decision yet?

When asking someone if they are open minded, most will reply “Yes”. As you dig deeper, you realise something, with a firm set of beliefs and information, they have formed their opinions about something already without realising it. The video below has been linked by Shaun Chng. An interesting way of presenting the mind’s willingness to accept new ideas and change of thinking without forcing ideas down the throats of others.

So, are you really open-minded?

In your life, you meet people. Some you never think about again. Some, you wonder what happened to them. There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do. [Source]

Being a great conversationalist isn’t an inborn skill. Some may call it an acquired skill while others seem to have it in them. Being invited to parties and having difficulties in engaging small talk with others may result in running away from attending such functions that may just change your career or life’s direction

For business owners, casual conversations at functions mean a lot to their businesses. Therefore, for those who have difficulties starting conversations, take a look at Debra Fine’s The Power of Meeting New People. She came with a shy personality and started changing and observing how others make conversations seem to easy.

The book gives a list of at least 50 ice breakers that can be used at functions. It’s human to talk about yourselves to others. Even a compliment can get a conversation started. There are also conversation criminals to be taken care of and how one can avoid being one yourself. Let others speak as they feel special when you ask about them.

Remember, casual questions may lead you to find your true self!

Life is short. You never know when you will expire and whether anyone will remember you. You may have done very well in your job but your boss may not remember you after you have left the company. What if one day, you expire before your boss, would your Continue Reading…

There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction. ~ Winston Churchill [Source]
While much has been talked about changes, a new year often brings about changes that are inevitable. The downturn of the economy can’t be stopped. The inflation can’t be stopped. The tide can’t Continue Reading…

Your big opportunity may be right where you are standing right now. ~ Napoleon Hill [Source]
Many of us had dreams as young as 5 years old. Perhaps we saw that brave firefighter carrying so many people to safety or that courageous policeman who chased and caught a robber despite Continue Reading…

We are born into this world not by choice. However, we would be happier when we are given choices. What we treasure most is the freedom to do anything; remember the “Freedom of speech”?

Freedom to move anywhere on this planet, freedom to travel, freedom to select a partner based Continue Reading…

Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing.  ~Steven Grayhm
It feels so easy to tell ourselves that we don’t have what it takes to move on; I can’t forget that height I have jump from, I need more Continue Reading…

In life, we meet different people but they are often defined by similar characters and personalities. Some like to be friendly while there are others who find joy in taking advantage of others.

No one likes to be taken advantage of and it is a terrible feeling especially when your Continue Reading…

If you think about disaster, you will get it. Brood about death and you hasten your demise. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience. ~ Swami Vivekananda ~ [Source]

Life has given us many opportunities Continue Reading…

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