May
1
Letting off Steam
May 1, 2008 | 2 Comments
Honesty is the cruelest game of all, because not only can you hurt someone – and hurt them to the bone – you can feel self-righteous about it at the same time ~ Dave Van Ronk ~ [Source]
[by Girl.in.the.D]
It’s often easier to blame it on the dog that ate your homework than take it responsibly that you had put the homework as a low priority and subsequently forgot about it until the teacher asked for it. I don’t have a dog, so I can’t blame my imaginary dog that it ate my homework.
In life, we make mistakes at work or home. In relationships, we have made a few mistakes of taking the person for granted or forgetting that it’s how you would react were you in their shoes. Take a simple example that the two of you are getting married.
Just a year before the wedding, your future spouse informed you that there is a career change. It affects the finances as you have both applied for the housing and if it had happened before the housing, the issue might not be that great. However, this change affects the two of you greatly as you have both applied at a higher rate.
The new job pays a lot lesser and it’s going to be a financial strain on you since you would be the sole breadwinner for a few years until your spouse has gained more financial gains. Worried, you tell your future spouse but didn’t expect the hurt and accusation that you are preventing him/her from doing it.
[by macwagen]
You didn’t expect the negative response while you have tried to plan financially. When you tried to explain to him/her but met silence. You don’t know what he/she is thinking. You start to get upset. Finally, there is a respond. He/she had been irrational. He/she didn’t know without calming down and simply lost his/her head.
There were times when you have lost your head a while when you felt that you were being judged. Times when you simple lost it without calming down and bulldozed your way ahead accusing others of blaming you when you could have accidentally loosen the screw in the pipe without knowing the side effects.
How can you improve your reactions? There are a few ways to calm down before tackling that issue.
- Get away from the source of your anger and hurt.
- Let it out. Tell someone who may be able to tell you about the other person’s point of view as that person is calm and able to sound it out for you.
- Read some books about personal development.
- Read some quotes about self-improvement. We are always learning despite graduating from school a long time ago.
- Compose a letter about your feelings. There isn’t any need to send out that letter during the heat of passion.
- Breathe slowly.
- Take a thrill ride so that you can scream your lungs out (not literally).
- Go bungee jumping.
Is there anything else that you would do to let out the negative feelings before thinking positive?
Related posts:
- No Matter Where You Go, Office Politics Is Here to Stay
- Solutions Can Be Simple. Stop Thinking So Much!
- Randy’s Success & Prosperity Blog
Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.
2 Responses to “Letting off Steam”
2 Comments
Trackbacks / Pingbacks
[...] making changes that can’t be done, the discussion could have gone another way. You start to lash out at your boss. However, it gets you nowhere. You are the only one who can make the changes to [...]
[...] are frustrated when things don’t go our way. That’s when we scream in anger. We rant to someone during this period and have never thought of making use of an accomplishment [...]